It is okay not to be okay
It is now commonplace for us humans to consistently try to make ourselves better. We try to put off the melancholic aura around us by distracting ourselves with some worries or tending to numb the feelings.
You may be confronted with an unexpected task or hurdle, and you may find yourself stressed, worried, and unsure of what to do. And some days, you simply don’t have anything. There is no motivation, and there is no creativity. You’ve suddenly become tormented with self-doubt.
You believe that you must always be strong.
You believe you are not permitted to cry or say that you are not in good health.
It’s okay to not be okay.
Why do we feel the need to be strong all of the time? Why do we feel bad about taking a break? I was engulfed in a sea of remorse. How can I sit here and cry and feel sorry for myself when there is so much for which I am grateful? I don’t see anyone else making excuses for themselves since I have so much stuff to accomplish.
Humans are not designed to be happy all of the time, so taking as much time as you need and acknowledging all of your feelings is always the best option. No matter how painful they are, if you ignore them and go about pretending to be “happy all the time or I’ll deal with it later,” you will find that these feelings will develop into different realities in your life sooner or later, some of which may be even more unpleasant. For instance, if you lose a loved one that you’re very close to or some part of your life that you rely heavily on upon, and you refuse to feel that anguish, you’re more likely to hurt yourself with how you bottle up your emotions. So, honour your feelings and allow them to take control of you. Because once you understand why you’re feeling that way, it’ll be easier the next time you’re faced with a similar issue. We are postponing the inevitable process of coping with tough emotions by attempting to return to “normal” at all costs and numbing difficult emotions. While we urge people to work on improving themselves and their well-being, it’s crucial not to be misled into thinking that being happy and joyous all of the time is required to be successful or pleased in life.
Being not okay isn’t easy. There is no easy fix, no drug, and no step-by-step method for overcoming challenging emotions and regaining your equilibrium.
There is, however, one thing that can assist us: a shift of perspective. Even when it appears that our current condition cannot be much worse, knowing that today’s struggles and challenges will only make us more alert, aware, and stronger tomorrow offers us hope.
